Updated: Jul 24
Coaching can change your LIFE!
Track the value of your investment.
You will have seen in my other blogs what Coaching can do for you. But if you are anything like me you will want to know what you are getting for your time and investment. One of my mantras is
‘You can’t improve what you can’t measure’.
When you are thinking about whether Coaching is right for you. You need to identify the current ‘state’.
What does your life look like now?
You may be wanting a Coach to help you with a certain element of your life. Pay negotiation, or confidence in presentations.
However, your coaching should go and be felt a lot deeper. I ask my clients to fill in a pretty deep questionnaire before starting their first proper session with me to get to know as much as I can about them. Not just around the pay negotiation or issue at hand.
It is my belief that confidence is the basis to many of the things we hold ourselves back on, not feeling good enough, or ‘lucky’.
I worked with Jennifer for 3 months. In our first session she told me about how she lacks confidence. She has self developed, but without mentoring or help with personal development. She’d almost accepted that this was who she was destined to be.
I saw a warrior beneath a slightly shaky surface, she was smart, but allowed herself to be dealt whatever card someone picked for her.
We set challenges, nothing too scary, small at first, but focussing on feeling the fear and doing it anyway and really exploring what would be the best and worst things that would happen if she took on and achieved the challenge.
Very quickly she was telling me how she had one-upped herself on the challenges I set her and as it wasn't that scary, she’d taken one step further. This is when I started to really see the warrior.
The latest challenge was a big one.
After being put into another job with no pay increase, Jennifer and I spent time talking about negotiating pay. The thing that was holding her back was that her reason for asking for more money was that she hadn’t had a raise in 5 years.
She didn't want to be 'whinging' despite increasing responsibility and being bloody marvellous because people had recently been made redundant in her company,
Flipping this and changing Jennifer’s mindset was how we normalised this for her.
She looked at similar roles outside her current organisation, talked to recruiters who are expert in the field and do some digging to see if she could find out a bit more about others in the team.
Once she found that this role was paying £15-20K more outside the business, her mindset changed from being grateful they had given her the job to one of horror that they weren't paying market rate.
Her attitude changed and she felt confident approaching HR and line managers about her pay. At one point she told me she hated me, while laughing and about to make her next phone call to push harder for more money.
There is not one situation this woman cannot handle, but small safe challenges helped her see what she was capable of - and she gave me a pretty cool testimonial.